Mom, Can I Have a Hug? (Five Minute Friday)

Me and my boys...chillin together, enjoying the here and now.
Me and my boys…chillin together, enjoying the here and now.

Prompt word: Here. Five minutes…Go.

Here. Makes me think of being here…in the present. Too often I’m not. I’m ruminating over the past or dreaming about the future. My 11-year-old is really good at pulling me in to the here and now.

photoI’ll be fast and furious, fingers flying across my keyboard…emails to be answered, blog posts to write, twitter to check, Facebook to update when suddenly I feel a soft hand on my back. “Mom, can I have a hug?”

If I’m really focused on my MacBook screen I’ll give him a little side hug. And he’ll call me on it every time. “Mom, can I have a real hug?”



Every time it pulls me into the here. Into the now. I turn away from the shiny screen and look my boy in the eyes. I wrap my arms around him and squeeze. He whispers, “You’re so warm.” It’s his way of saying thank you.

I know that I have to learn from the past and I have to plan for the future. But I don’t want to miss the now. I want to be here for my kids.

How ’bout you? Do you struggle to be here…to be present?


Stop. Time’s up!

This post is inspired by Lisa-Jo Baker’s Five Minute Fridays. The idea being that one prompt word is given on Friday and hundreds of bloggers take 5 minutes to write on the subject. No editing…no perfecting. Just five minutes of writing. (If you’re one of my blogging friends, why not join in?)





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Practice Being Present

Photo Credit-Rory Finneren, Creative Commons

Wow…anyone else out there have whiplash from the last two weeks of the school year? (For my southern friends, I know your kids have been done for a while…so just think back a few weeks.) It seems like the end of the year is so jam-packed with in-school events plus sporting events at night that I feel like I can’t keep up. But then this blessed, last day of school arrives and I breathe a sigh of relief.

I love summer vacation. I fully realize I may not be saying this a week from now. I may begin counting down the days until the first day of school in the fall. But for now, I’m looking forward to sleeping in, relaxed days and my kiddos getting to see their dad every day. He works evenings so during the school year he sees them so little.

I see them every day so I often forget that he only sees them on Thursday nights, Saturday mornings and Sundays. Summer is the time when we feel more like a family. We can eat meals together daily, play games, work on household projects…all as a family. Right now, when I look at my July calendar, all I see is a bunch of white squares. I love that feeling! I know that within a few days those squares will start filling up. But for now…for this weekend…I’m going to enjoy the first weekend of summer vacation. I’m not going to stress about anything. I’m not going to think about what to write on my blog or worry about my to-do list.

I’m not saying there’s nothing on the schedule for the weekend. There are plenty of things planned. But I’m going to be intentional about enjoying each thing while it’s happening…not cluttering my mind with everything else that I need to do. I’m going to practice being present. That means I’m going to put my cell phone in my purse, rather than its usual resting place in the palm of my hand. I’m going to look at my children when they are speaking to me, not just mumble an answer while I check my email. I may even play a card game or two.

How about you? Are you excited for the summer vacation or do you dread it? Are you good at being present with your kids or are you like me; very distracted and overwhelmed? How about you take the weekend off with me? Practice being present and just enjoy whatever you have planned!

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